It hurts me inside.
Date tonight with a baby. This is the one that was planned 2 weeks in advance. I’m pretty indifferent, except that it’s supposed to be really hot today so I hope I don’t die from heat stroke (or show up all sweaty).
I miss autumn. I have a feeling this summer will be meh, at least okcupid-wise.
theinexperiencedgirl asked: I think you should try out a WYP date just for kicks. Doesn't even have to a be a Jewish guy, just pick a rando and see how it goes. The worst that could happen is that you get paid and end up with a funny story. Do it in the name of social experimentation!
Maybe I would for curiosity/social experimentation. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with it if everyone is up front and getting what’s agreed to. But I can’t make a profile right now because if they email-blast new members, I have no doubt that the Tumblr stalkers would find me. Then the worst case scenario could entail me ending up decapitated in someone’s closet. But that wouldn’t be very logical, because I wouldn’t be able to keep writing and there’d be no more blog to stalk.
I seriously still want to do the Millionaire’s Club though, if only to have a better shot at meeting Patti Stanger. I just need to find someone with a fancy camera to help me with the mandatory professional photos. I think my brother has one, but getting his help in this seems too weird.
eveyfawkes asked: I found this one guy who's super ambitious and smart. He's cuteish and has nice style, totally someone I would go for. He knows my brother and my brother likes him and thinks he's a good guy. But then it comes out that he's jewish. Just my luck.Why do Jewish people only date other jewish people?? frustrating.
Disclaimer: this kind of struck a nerve, and I’m sure that was not your intent, but I’m having a hard time figuring out what to say and how sensitively to say it (e.g. my first instinct was to just say “the holocaust” but I realize that will accomplish nothing). I am open to feedback and editing this (or removing it) if I completely miss the mark.
So I’m not sure if you want me to commiserate (like, womp - there’s a boy you like who it sounds like won’t date you — although you didn’t really make that clear), if you want me to make a joke (hey, one day you’ll find your Prince Charming and at least he won’t have a giant nose and back hair), or if you want me to actually explain why intra-dating of any race/religion/ethnicity, not just Jewish people, is so prevalent (I’m not a sociologist so I’d have to find a good Wikipedia article).
And I don’t know if I should mention the flip side — i.e. how heated any-race/religion/ethnicity women get when “their” men date not-their-race/religion/ethnicity women — and how it’s not fair to have a double standard. For example if a Blue girl has ever gotten upset at Blue guys for having a so-called “Purple fetish,” and then that Blue girl finds herself with a crush on a Green guy, she can’t logically also get mad at him if he only dates Green girls. Since she essentially only wants Blue guys to date Blue girls, but Green guys to also date Blue girls, she’s hypocritically endorsing and denouncing intra-crayola-color dating. And being selfish. Sure it’s frustrating if you think you’re getting the short end of the stick, but in my limited experience, I’ve observed people being unfairly inconsistent. Furthermore, if you’re a Blue girl would you go up to a Purple or Green girl and ask her what’s up with all of this? Would you think she should answer for it? Seems like some heavy shit. Personally I think all of the permutations are so common, and I’ve experienced all sides of it (intra- and inter-, accepted and not accepted), that I just think… I don’t know what I think. But I’m not particularly frustrated about it, and I’m not a sociologist, so I’m not going to answer the “why” part on the whole. I have some ideas in particular about Jews, but I resent being singled out when it’s not just Jews. (And let’s not open the Judaism-as-a-religion vs. -race vs. -ethnicity vs. -culture can of worms, please. I don’t have the energy.)
Also there’s the fact that not all Jewish people only date other Jewish people, which some people embrace and some people shun. There’s a school of thought about inter-marriage and the Jewish culture washing out completely… which is something I think I rambled about a long time ago.
And I’m not sure if I should point out that “just my luck” and “frustrating” are not the things I’d jump to think that a hetero white girl would feel in this situation. I think anyone who grew up with a different perspective — that of a Jew, or any strongly-identifying-but-tiny minority — would probably think that the non-Jew has it easier here. Jews are only a fraction of a percent of the world, and if maybe half of them won’t date non-Jews, I don’t think the ginormous size of the leftover pool is that bad for the hetero white female to date. I feel like I’d be done with this whole saga by now if I didn’t have so much familial/cultural pressure hanging on such a limiting factor, so be glad your sea of fish is the bigger one (although I’m not complaining — NYC is the mecca, and I do sometimes date non-Jews). And I think your average non-Jewish white female is pretty lucky that she’s probably not missing the majority of the branches of her family tree (I assume). So… I dunno, count your blessings?
EDIT: Also, the “but then it comes out that he’s Jewish” part makes it sound like a disease. -___-
Did OkCupid get rid of the watermarks or is it just because I pay for A-list?
Anonymous asked: Did you end up going back to Potential Fuck Buddy's place the other night? I want details!!! <3
Details coming. I have a lot of work and my boss isn’t happy with me these days, which is definitely related to how much time I spend on OkCupid/Match/Tumblr, so… I’ve been cutting back. If only I could get paid to date.
Well, I technically could, but I don’t think I’d make enough to cover my cable bill.
Just found out my freshman year hookup is gay!
Anonymous asked: So I have a question how do you feel about gingers? Red hair, palish skin and freckles. I get the feeling like females don't like male gingers, but males love gingers.
He asked me to his place to see his posters and I asked if he had a guitar… Bahahaha this is so cute and obvious I can’t handle it. And he paid for everything. I’m gonna get peeeeeeeeenissssss :-D
Calling my boyfriend
Raising my glass
To okjwepid from an undisclosed location in the upper west side tonight. Happy Blirthday my dear!!!
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I know exactly what kinds of changes I need to make in my life at the moment but it just seems so hard